This last year was my oldest son's first year in preschool. I was the eager parent so excited for him to start this social milestone with dreams of cute little friends and how much fun he would have. I always pictured the perfect situation, little Mr. popular whom everyone adored and wanted to be friends with. Now don't get me wrong, he LOVES school and is excited to go back this year, but I had concerns.
Mid-year I noticed a trend. Each time I would pick him up from school the kids would be playing tag and my son would be "it." At first I didn't think much of it, but after a few days of the same thing I asked him about it and if he always wanted to be "it." He told me how all the kids always said he was it and that's how it was. He said sometimes he didn't want to be it, but they would make him. We talked about it and role played a little about how he could nicely ask his peers if they could take turns being "it" because he would prefer not to have that role every time.
This is such a small situation, but it got me to thinking about what may be coming. Could he be susceptible to bullying or for that matter being a bully? I wanted to know more about what is considered bullying and when childhood banter has gone too far. I was excited to see that there are some really great resources out there to help educate parents, kids and teachers alike on exactly what bullying is and how we can recognize it.
There are so many bullying resources out there, but here are a few I really liked:
- Signs Your Child is Being Bullied
- Signs Your Child May be a Bully
- Cartoon webisodes to help recognize bullying
- Teaching Kids about bullies using Disney
What did you do to positively resolve the issue?
Do you know of good resources for those being bullied or for parents raising a bully?
I would love to hear any personal experiences or recommendations in the comments or by email (email@example.com) if you prefer.
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